"Lonely, I'm Mr Lonely, I have nobody for my own..."
Sounds familiar I guess. You know the rest of the lyrics right? The tune we all hum in the secrecy of our hearts while wishing we had someone to lean on, someone who cares, someone we can really call our own.
The cry for companionship can be intense. Single folks, widows and divorced can tell the tale. It is definitely true that everybody has needs, everyone needs a companion. However, married people are not left out, the feeling often transcends what absence of people can initiate, it gets worse when the heart longs for more intimacy, love and attention while in the midst of people. It now means that loneliness doesn't thrive in the absence of others but in the innermost need of the person. Whether married or single, we can still have memorable experience in this season. Here are the ways to respond to this need whenever it comes knocking.
Know That It Is Normal: Just like it's normal to be thirsty, hungry or sleepy, loneliness is normal. It doesn't mean you're not contented or you're relaxing in your trust in God, rather it signals the need in your life, reminds you of what is needed but is missing. There is really nothing wrong with that you know.
Don't Blame Others: Oh, stop it! Please don't pass the blame on others. Many time, we easily shift the bulk of the blame on our insensitive partners, clueless friends even parents or siblings. We've concluded that it's the duty of these ones to make us feel whole and complete. However, only God can do that. As such, we shouldn't blame others for not doing what only God can do.
Eat: Whatever you do when you feel hungry or thirsty, exactly what you have to do in this case. Since loneliness signals the need that couldn't possibly be met by our strength, then we have to seek the one who can satisfy our quests- God. Explain your needs to Him without reservations, He can be trusted to reply you without condemnation. And of course, He knows how to fix all hunger.
Reach Out To People: Loneliness can make one get extremely self absorbed, but snap out of it. It isn't good for you. Remember the golden rule" Do unto others what you want them to do unto you " A senior friend taught me to show love to people around me during this time. Trust me when I say the burden gets lifted as I do this. There is always someone nearby who needs your love. You never can tell how God can use them to bless you.
Gratitude: This obviously works for all season. Never bow your head in shame, always be grateful to God for life. Remember that only the living gets hungry.
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